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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 18:26:16 GMT
You ever do something incredibly stupid? I mean financially stupid that you don't know if you can recover from doing it? A small project started out ok. I couldn't do it myself, tried but couldn't. So ok that was done well and reasonably priced. So, hire the same people for the next project I couldn't fix, also done well, reasonably priced. Then whoa what? While fixing the above, major damage. I see the damage. Needs to be fixed. I say no. Then ok we start start to talk about the scope, so far so good. Materials, size, cost. Next thing I know it's spiraling out of control, materials introduced didn't agree to, project expands. Then... holy shit It's costing me what? And then they guy shows me something else that actually needs urgent care. Said no and hope I can fix it myself. Could have done several other things that needed repair for that amount Holy fuck. I'm blaming the Covid-19, stay safe stay home orders, and the riots, and the calls for communism- it made me lose my mind. Damn fool that I am. Feel sick .
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Post by Iakus on Jun 24, 2020 22:18:37 GMT
You ever do something incredibly stupid? I mean financially stupid that you don't know if you can recover from doing it? A small project started out ok. I couldn't do it myself, tried but couldn't. So ok that was done well and reasonably priced. So, hire the same people for the next project I couldn't fix, also done well, reasonably priced. Then whoa what? While fixing the above, major damage. I see the damage. Needs to be fixed. I say no. Then ok we start start to talk about the scope, so far so good. Materials, size, cost. Next thing I know it's spiraling out of control, materials introduced didn't agree to, project expands. Then... holy shit It's costing me what? And then they guy shows me something else that actually needs urgent care. Said no and hope I can fix it myself. Could have done several other things that needed repair for that amount Holy fuck. I'm blaming the Covid-19, stay safe stay home orders, and the riots, and the calls for communism- it made me lose my mind. Damn fool that I am. Feel sick . One time a few years ago I called a plumber to do some minor work. Fix a leaky pipe and replace a P-trap in a basement sink. Turned out there were some badly corroded pipes and the sink itself was about ready to fall apart. Yeah that turned out to be kinda expensive. Not as expensive as it could have ended up being though.
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Post by dmc1001 on Aug 20, 2021 19:35:15 GMT
Feeling introspective today. Just some things about me. About how I do or don't belong. On the one hand I feel like I live on the outer edges of whatever group I "belong" to. Politically, emotionally, sexually or whatever. I don't like being controlled, I don't like being oppressed, I don't like being told I ought to be a certain when or I'll be ostracized or told I'm going to go to hell because someone more concerned with putting people in boxes rather than allowing me to find my own way.
For a long time I rebelled against conservatives. I saw things that I didn't like and ignored the things liberals did. They're humans, they're stupid (we all are) and they want to control me and all of us. It's why when I didn't shove myself into a box that I found my sense of belonging was just a sham. They wanted me to conform as much as everyone else, just in a different way. Maybe that's why I fell into alcoholism for a big chunk of my life but it's been a long time since I touched alcohol. For me, that was another control and what I let go of.
I thought conservatives had me in a box, and some still do. But it's changed a lot. I fit more than I'd ever belonged. About 12 years ago, when I was still pretty liberal, I knew this guy who was conservative. He never cared about my sexuality. I hung around him, played poker at his house, met his family - none of it mattered. My brother and father are both conservatives. Never concerned with my sexuality, or my different political leanings. We, along with my then-liberal mother, were a family. Pure and simple. I belonged, we all belonged, and petty things didn't matter. Anyway, when I came out, things shifted. My father (back when maps were the only way to find your way) helped my find my way to my first LGBT meeting. My brother would get pissed off if he heard anything anti-gay. That's conservatism. That's family. I always belonged there.
Now I'm in that weird place. Liberals are the open oppressors. The conservatives the more open-minded. I never would have thought that. A friend of mine told me years back that he thought my thinking was more libertarian than liberal. When I shifted further toward the right he showed no surprise and it didn't make a difference in our friendship. That's a sense of belonging. I don't have to pretend to be anything but who I am.
I think we know there's a hateful person on this particular board. I can forgive that. He's trapped, forced to conform and can't see outside of that box. He doesn't love his fellow humans, which is a sad state to be in. But I can forgive it because boxes are hard things to get out of. Not the religion. Religion isn't a bad thing and it can be amazingly loving if we're to allow it. It's about hope and faith but can easily be twisted to hate and control. That kind of faith is what sometimes makes me run from religion. People adhering to religion are dropping like flies. No one is forced to have a particular like of anyone, but love of your fellows? Indispensable for living in a world where you're not ruled by fear.
My alcoholism forced me on a spiritual path I never wanted to be on. I rebelled and only got better, on the inside, when I embraced it. I don't know what's out there but that was never the right place to look. I looked inside and what I needed was there all along. The answer to that was a requirement, if I wanted a happy and useful life, to help others find that same love inside. It could lead to religion at any time, but only if I'm welcome. Only if they want to embrace me for who I am rather than who they might think I ought to be.
Liberals and conservatives alike could embrace me and others for who we are rather than what we ought to be. We're alike so much more than we're different. Left-wing people are forcing us to be different because they live in a horrible religion that requires conformity, even if they claim it's individualism. Right-wing people are exactly the same, requiring conformity. That's where they have it wrong. We're all human, all individual and all very much the same are our core. To me, that's the answer. Find the common ground rather than the differences. I think conservatives seem to be better at it these days. Not right-wingers but the right in general.
I live in a fairly conservative area. Went to school in a pretty conservative school. Attended a Catholic college. No hint of discrimination. Had a partner, a house and dogs. Always fit it because I was just some guy and who cared about anything else? It's really only online that people get brave and think they can brand you. It's why Twitter and Facebook define culture, because those are people only brave behind a keyboard. Did they ever look someone in the eye, tell them you weren't scared? When I lived in NYC, of all places, and worked at a restaurant, I overheard someone saying something anti-gay in context to if his son turned about to be gay. I walked up to him and told him I was gay and he should shut the fuck up. I didn't go tell on him or make a threat that I would. Not necessary. It was two guys face-to-face, no one else involved. You know what happened? Nothing. He didn't decide that my being gay made a difference. We were co-workers and got along just fine. And that's the thing. Accept the differences.
So, this, for the anti-gay, anti-woman person around here, should he read this far. It's from Matthew 22:39: "Love they neighbor as thyself." Unless the words are a big, fat lie than any Christian who doesn't adhere to it is only concerned with control.
And that's it. That's why was coming up today. I don't know if it matters or anyone cares or if anyone sees or feels it. What I can say is that I'm feeling alive and free today.
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Post by Sundance on Aug 20, 2021 21:22:42 GMT
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Post by novatrex on Sept 1, 2021 3:18:18 GMT
That was quite a post there dmc1001. Nothing beats close friends and family. I wish there wasn't this "either we do it our way or no way" in politics. I understand that there are some fundamental differences that are there to stay, but there is also a lot that can be done by working together that isn't being done. Some of these politicians would just assume harm the public if that's what it takes to stay in control or get their way. There was a time before the dominant religions of today, like back in ancient Greece, where being homosexual or bisexual was not a big deal. Eh, you're a little different, ok, whatever. I wish humanity would have evolved along a different path than what it did, but it is what it is. Was it inevitable? I don't know, maybe.
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Post by Iakus on Sept 11, 2021 18:47:19 GMT
"Liberal" and "Conservative" have become meaningless labels. Conservative now seems to mean "Classically Liberal" as in, live and let live.
Nowadays the divide is more "authoritarian" vs "libertarian"
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Post by dmc1001 on Sept 13, 2021 20:25:28 GMT
"Liberal" and "Conservative" have become meaningless labels. Conservative now seems to mean "Classically Liberal" as in, live and let live. Nowadays the divide is more "authoritarian" vs "libertarian" I agree.
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Post by Onishiro on Sept 15, 2021 6:26:50 GMT
Waiting for an answer as to when I'm to have foot surgery. Time to finally close the book on a problem that's bugged me since the 6th grade. Kind of nervous about recovery so I took steps to install rails leading from my room to the stairs as well as a cane and will have my gf staying with me for a few days per week since I won't be able to walk my dog. Outside of that, I'm looking to have a new gig lined up just incase my job gets too retarded (even before considering mandates) and I took a trip down video game memory lane.
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Post by novatrex on Nov 25, 2021 16:39:46 GMT
Happy Holidays everyone and Thanksgiving to my fellow Americans.
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Post by Iakus on Nov 25, 2021 16:42:49 GMT
Happy Holidays everyone and Thanksgiving to my fellow Americans. Happy Thanksgiving, to all who celebrate it!
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Post by Onishiro on Nov 26, 2021 5:53:31 GMT
I'm old as fok. Now I'm stuffed.
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Post by Iakus on Dec 24, 2021 18:28:00 GMT
Merry Christmas everyone!
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Post by novatrex on Dec 24, 2021 22:05:40 GMT
Merry Christmas to everyone as well!
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Post by Kaiser Arian on Dec 25, 2021 11:16:20 GMT
Merry Christmas
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